Ahhhhh my hands are itching!!! So to the blog I go. Now, before I start this, I need to state a very clear disclaimer. Those who DO read my blog, that I know anyways, know I am in a relationship. I love my man, he’s a great guy, but this article is coming from Talya, a woman, completely unattached from my current relationship.
I have girlfriends,I have guy friends…not as many as before, but I work with men, I have male customers, so I still hear stories about relationships from both sides.
My first observation; men are men. What I mean by that is it is oh so true that men and women are not the same. I was having a very frustrated conversation with one of my girlfriends about the mans brain and all she had to say, is ‘they’re different talya, and you just have to get that.’ Me being me of course was initially like EFF that! What do you mean just accept that?? ‘They don’t think like us, they just don’t.’ Something you would think is so obvious, just so freaking obvious because I would do it, simply isn’t. And that’s because I’m a woman. I just heard a story where a man told a couple, ‘you just have to give women credit, they just do things better. They’re far more considerate, more action oriented, they just nail it.’ No, this is not a feminist post, just a post from a female.
So anyways, the point of the article is, IS there a man that can truly fully satisfy a woman. The answer it seems, is no. Does that mean there aren’t good guys out there? Of course not, but is there a guy out there that can fulfill what I deem the most important qualities;
*a true companion
*good in bed
This is what I can come up with right now. This may seem like the golden goose of men, the Zeus of men, the ultimate goal, the holy grail but we all know this is impossible. *shrugs shoulders* it’s impossible!!!
So, I know in my ultimate relationship, I want someone who is faithful, financially stable, fun, exciting, hard working, smart! caring, a good father to my kids, caring…..ok I’m pulling too much from the list and before I know it, the whole thing will be in this paragraph haha. I’m not one to settle, I can’t. I want to much for my life, but sometimes I look at it from a selfish point of view.
I’m not perfect, I’m not the shit either as I thought I was. I see that more in my current relationship than ever before because I always swore I was. Am I a good girl? Yes. Am I better than most of the pickings out there? That I can confidently say, yes! But I’m messy, curse way more than I should, partake in recreational activities way more than necessary (cough cough pun intended) complain far too much, I’m messy, some will say negative (I say realistic), don’t have a lot of money, and I’m spoiled. Wow. But I’m writing this because I had a real ass conversation with myself last night. I was annoyed by my boyfriend and even though he too isn’t the shit, in the same matter I described myself, he is a great guy. So I found myself thinking, yes there are things that I would change about him, but that’s him. Are they possible to change? Yes, just like my flaws are, but I realized things take time. Our relationship is still fairly new to be honest, and even though we do love each other, even live together, what’s more important? Someone who does genuinely care for you and could very well change? Or someone who has everything you want, but proves to be an ass? All the money in the world doesn’t make you a nice person. Sure you could do a lot more, show me a side of life I never thought could be lived, but if I’m not respected does it matter? What if he’s TOO ambitious? Which I feel is the sexiest thing alive any person could possess, and doesn’t have enough time for me? Yeah I love that your changing the world, but I haven’t seen you in over a month! Same time, there’s more to life than movies and cuddle time.
As I conclude, I want to open this up to men and women alike. Life is all about balance. I’m coming to learn that more and more and I get older and experience the things I do. Do you, and I mean this in the truest sense possible. Do what makes YOU happy whether it’s pushing yourself mentally, physically, educationally, financially….and hope for the best. If your partner sees you changing they’ll probably be inclined to do the same, if not, they just may not be man OR woman enough for you.